I can say from too many family and friends alike. all they ever found in a bottle was despair and that despair took a giant crap on everyone around them, family and friend alike.
On the positive side, some of the most balanced and happy people I know or have known were recovering alcoholics and/or drug addicts. People that have quit have my undying admiration, they not only recovered themselves but saved those around them as well, it is never a just you situation, except the quitting part, that is all on you.
NA/AA, religion, meditation, etc will work when you're ready. You cannot be a partner, period, it's 100% or nothing.